"You're happy, but if I'm unhappy, you're unhappy too." The 90-year-old poisonous mother's madness and the 50-year-old daughter's dangerous arrhythmia.

By : ilikephone / On : 05/04/2023

I had no choice but to invite a mother who was obsessed with her daughter even when she was old

Mr. Kobayashi grew up with a mother who was obsessed with her daughter Married to the opposite party. Kobayashi, who left her mother alone and moved to Tohoku, worried about her aging mother and invited her to a place near her home.

In her 80s, her mother, who started living across from Kobayashi's house, began to show symptoms of dementia.

"My mother was a person who felt compelled to put important things away where others couldn't easily find them. As a result, she would forget where she put them and make a fuss about them being lost. Suspicions were often directed at me and my husband, but it was a shock when my daughter, who was still in junior high school, was suspected without any grounds."

The things that people always make a fuss about when they lose them are passbooks and cash, and when Kobayashi and others searched for them, they found them. Mr. Kobayashi said that when his mother moved across the street, he wanted to keep the spare key in case something happened, but her mother stubbornly refused to give it to him. In spite of this, he was suspected, ``You used a duplicate key to enter my house without permission!''

You are happy but I am unhappy Then you're unhappy, too.

"My mother was very attached to money, probably because there was a time when she was struggling with money. There were no troubles like that at all, but I had a terrible delusion that 'someone might steal my money', and I was suspicious not only of others but also of my family, so I left the management of money to my mother for a while. I was there.”

However, if you lose your passbook or card too often, people will make a fuss and say, "It's been stolen!" ?” persuaded each time.

Every day, my 85-year-old mother asks me to copy the contents of my passbook and give it to her

And when she finally turns 85, she entrusts Ms. Kobayashi with her passbook and cards. . Still, she seemed worried, and she came to Mr. Kobayashi's house many times a day, and she checked to see if Mr. Kobayashi had the complete set. I've been doing that all the time because I want you to copy the contents of the passbook and give it to me almost every day.

In addition, even in the morning, the shutters were only half open, and I spent the whole day in a dimly lit room. When Mr. Kobayashi tried to open it, he would say incomprehensible things, such as, "People can see it from outside!"

Mr. Kobayashi, who was worried, recommended that he take a dementia test at the hospital, but his proud mother stubbornly refused. When she tried to get her internist to be screened for dementia, she was furious.

Therefore, Mr. Kobayashi went to the Comprehensive Support Center for consultation. Her counselor advised her, ``Let's get nursing care certification.

At a later date, a certified nursing care investigator visited the mother's house. After meeting with her mother, the investigator said, "Let me talk to her daughter for a minute." come. When Mr. Kobayashi was ignoring him, his mother came out from the house across the street and relentlessly rang the intercom. When he still didn't come out, his mother went around to the living room, peered in from outside, and banged on the window glass.

"Perhaps she thought that I was being spoken ill of myself. Even if a friend comes to my house, my mother seems to be curious about what kind of person is coming. The investigator was also surprised by my mother's obsession with me and over-interference, and sympathized with me, saying, 'This will not put your daughter at ease.'"

The result of the nursing care certification survey was support required 2.